We love our little dragon, she is the light of our life and we have most likely spoiled her! (but she is too cute not to!) having said that though we embark on a new challenge in her life, but we are looking forward to the rewards success will bring. As most of you know our little dragon doesn't really speak much and we have been searching for a reason and hoping it will just unblock. needless to say that is not the case. After extensive research and appointments and tests it comes down to these three things:
1. She has a speech delay ( which we assumed, but worried about the cause). According the greatest speech therapist ever Stacey Knect, with work and excersizes Layla Rose will catch up. She said Layla Rose was very smart and above average in problem solving so once she understands that words can get her things she should progress quickly.
2 &3 are kind of intertwined .She has sensitivity to noise and is susceptible to o ver stimulation causing anxiety. all very fancy ways of saying she can't deal with too much noise and visual stimuli. OIt makes her stress out and internalise making her less open to using her words. So we have to adpat the enviroment big time and see an occupational therapist to teach us some coping skills. We are also on the list for the mckay center and shoudl begin there in the next couple of weeks.
The biggest thing to come out of all this is that we have had to pull her out of daycare. She was in a daycare center with 80 kids and it was just too much for her according to the therapist. They also used internet and TV to do activities for the kids which I am very against and didn't help a child who is already over stimulated. Don't take me wrong, Layla Rose's educators just loved her and i knew that they were doing their best. Melanie and Stacey were just two very special people, who loved my little dragon, but because of her needs we have to put her somewhere she can get one on one with someone who is trained. So she will begin in a new place with only 4 other kids and they will work with her in terms of reducing her anxiety , increase her attention span and open the flood gates of vocabulary.
I want to hear her speak, and know what she is thinking, I want to answer every question she has and hear her little voice. I want to hear her say she loves me and know what she is saying...my heart just aches to think that she is so frustrated because we don't understand her. All of this to say parenting is hard, we hope we make the right choices to give our kids the best chance possible but there is no guarantee. I hope we are making the right choice in this. Here we go on another challenge!
Friday, March 27, 2015
Sunday, March 22, 2015
Happy spring...NOT!
So what is a family to do on a cruddy cold winter... I mean spring weekend?!?!?
Well after my little chat you will see the fruits of our ever expanding list of indoor things to do due to STUPID WINTER!!
We were hoping to go and visit our Nonno, since his first week of treatment is over, but our little ones are too much of a risk since we suspect an ear infection ( although not sure). Glad to report that though fatigue and nausea have certainly set in for Nonno, so far nothing unexpected and we are so grateful for all the support our family has received! As a result of our weekend without a visit we had to fill our time with some creative ideas. Whats more is our Patriarch of the family has had open heart surgery last week and has developed some complications in the bladder of all places...go figure. So our entire family is coping with the health and stability of our loved ones. As always the Mancini/Pedicelli/Harwood clan is strong in support, love and faith and we will all pull through this.
Interestingly enough it brings me to a topic i thought I unbderstood...GUILT. I know that we are not super heros, but i certainly feel that there is no way to meet everyones needs. I want to be at the hospital with Domenic, visit Peddy, have nice hot home cooked meals for my family, work out, play hockey, snuggle my kiddos, and...and...and of course I just can't, and so i end up feeling guilty because I just can't do it all. I ahve had a hard time lately because it is hard to work out an dlose this weight with everything going on. but is that an excuse? I just can't seem to find the time to get to the studio and this SHIT weather makes it unpleasent to go out, even if I could. UGH...So I was talking about this with a mom and she laughed and said welcome to motherhood. Yipee! HAHA!!
Also, we are dealing with Layla Rose again, of course most of you know she isn't speaking yet( or at least very little) so once again we are going to the speech therapist and have begun that treatment, of course we worry about autism which is so popular these days, that I can't help but think about it. She has been evaluated before, but we get the final report on Tuesday, and I won't lie, its creeping me out. Even though I know it is negative it still in the back of my mind. EESSH! I will of course keep you posted on that. This weekend was a crazy overhaul of our house, we had to set up all kinds of "obstacle" to force her to speak, put away her toys and do LOTS of repeating. I am exited to see if this new therapist will offer new insights on how we can do better as parents in all this.
More o n the topic of guilt to come...I guess it come with the territory, balance I suppose is the key. To all you Mom's and Dad's who got this parenting thing down... I SALUTE YOU!!!
Well after my little chat you will see the fruits of our ever expanding list of indoor things to do due to STUPID WINTER!!
We were hoping to go and visit our Nonno, since his first week of treatment is over, but our little ones are too much of a risk since we suspect an ear infection ( although not sure). Glad to report that though fatigue and nausea have certainly set in for Nonno, so far nothing unexpected and we are so grateful for all the support our family has received! As a result of our weekend without a visit we had to fill our time with some creative ideas. Whats more is our Patriarch of the family has had open heart surgery last week and has developed some complications in the bladder of all places...go figure. So our entire family is coping with the health and stability of our loved ones. As always the Mancini/Pedicelli/Harwood clan is strong in support, love and faith and we will all pull through this.
Interestingly enough it brings me to a topic i thought I unbderstood...GUILT. I know that we are not super heros, but i certainly feel that there is no way to meet everyones needs. I want to be at the hospital with Domenic, visit Peddy, have nice hot home cooked meals for my family, work out, play hockey, snuggle my kiddos, and...and...and of course I just can't, and so i end up feeling guilty because I just can't do it all. I ahve had a hard time lately because it is hard to work out an dlose this weight with everything going on. but is that an excuse? I just can't seem to find the time to get to the studio and this SHIT weather makes it unpleasent to go out, even if I could. UGH...So I was talking about this with a mom and she laughed and said welcome to motherhood. Yipee! HAHA!!
Also, we are dealing with Layla Rose again, of course most of you know she isn't speaking yet( or at least very little) so once again we are going to the speech therapist and have begun that treatment, of course we worry about autism which is so popular these days, that I can't help but think about it. She has been evaluated before, but we get the final report on Tuesday, and I won't lie, its creeping me out. Even though I know it is negative it still in the back of my mind. EESSH! I will of course keep you posted on that. This weekend was a crazy overhaul of our house, we had to set up all kinds of "obstacle" to force her to speak, put away her toys and do LOTS of repeating. I am exited to see if this new therapist will offer new insights on how we can do better as parents in all this.
More o n the topic of guilt to come...I guess it come with the territory, balance I suppose is the key. To all you Mom's and Dad's who got this parenting thing down... I SALUTE YOU!!!
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| Of course we put up our tent inside!! |
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| Giant easter cookie...no way it makes it to easter.. |
Saturday, March 14, 2015
Perfect day!!
What a great day! we got to spend it with ALL KINDS of family! We celebrated the twins 3rd birthday and then had a great supper with the other side!! Feeling really grateful this weekend for so much fun!!! Started with A GREAT hockey date night, where my incredible hockey playing husband kept feeding me the puck allowing me to score 5 goals!! WTF!!! Hubby points for sure!!! then today lots of family time and tomorrow a whole day of cooking for our Nonno who is about to start a very brave fight!
Here are some highlights!!
Hugs your kiddos people, never know what is around the corner!
Here are some highlights!!
Hugs your kiddos people, never know what is around the corner!
Friday, March 13, 2015
All Anthony, all the time!
So our cutie HUMUNGOUS baby is just a riot! after a rough start to the week in cluding a trip to the ER he is doing great! He just LOVES his mobile! best thing we ever got! LOL! he can stare at it forever and he laughs the whole time! we just love him!
So funny how our two children are so very different, opposites really but both make us laugh! Isn't that the best!
Lots planned over the next few weeks, back at work and that is certainly a challenge, we are both working now and lucky for us we both are able to balance the buddha between us. My father in law is about to begin his treatment for radiation and chemo so that is what we are focusing on right now as a family and are looking forward to getting to the other side!
Birthday parties and celebrations this month, more babies born and just keeps on ricking and rolling here ...and I wouldn't have it any other way!
So funny how our two children are so very different, opposites really but both make us laugh! Isn't that the best!
Lots planned over the next few weeks, back at work and that is certainly a challenge, we are both working now and lucky for us we both are able to balance the buddha between us. My father in law is about to begin his treatment for radiation and chemo so that is what we are focusing on right now as a family and are looking forward to getting to the other side!
Birthday parties and celebrations this month, more babies born and just keeps on ricking and rolling here ...and I wouldn't have it any other way!
Monday, March 2, 2015
Well that does it!
ok so Anthony is 11 weeks old and doing great. He is ENORMOUS LOL! he wear six month clothing. A happy chubby baby makes a happy Momma, but PHEW does he eat! which brings me to tonights topic/rant.
Ugh people I am discouraged with how long it is taking me to get back into it! I am SOOOOOOOOO out of shape, and my body hurts so much more this time. Ok truth be told i let myself go during the pregnancy, ate whatever i wanted. Boy am I paying the price now. I find getting back into 100% healthy eating so HARD! I will eat a totally great breakfast and then an good lunch, yummy healthy snacks, but by the time 5 comes i just don't have it in me to cook! ARGH! add to that that I am a VERY picky eater, in that i will not eat reheated meat, don't do slow cooker or anytime of sauce cover stew etc, no mashed potatoes, red meat ( you see where this is going) I rarely eat pasta and I try to stay away form anything fried. Needless to say right now food situation ICK! God bless an amazing husband, but he can't cook for bean meaning that i have to cook 3 meals a day for everyone and shop for it and think of it. Mothers of boys...do not fail the next generation of women, teach your sons to cook for goodness sake! If something happened to me all the kids would get is mini wheats and hamburgers. There had got to be a way that working Mom's can eat healthy , lose weight and not lose their minds in the process! Anyone with suggestions , I am listening!!
As for my body..WTF?!?!? talk about not bouncing back!! I thought i would be able to get right back into it, but after so long not doing any activity it is much harder to stay active. I have no stamina and my knees are so F#@$ed-up!! going to see an osteopath , but still! What is even worse is the winter has just made it POOPY! with Layla Rose I could walk everyday because it was summer but here I can't because of the bitter cold. Hopefully this will change soon so i can walk my buddha around the neighborhood. so to remedy this I go to the studio or play hockey. But while I am there i feel like crap, a. because i am so not the person i was and b. because i have left my kids alone. Is there any part of parent hood that is guilt free??? So tonight i was driving home thinking how nice it would be to go to the spa for the day soon, and then in pops the though..."without the kids..." FOR REAL! Between wanting to get back in shape, healing ( still super sore in the abdomen which is annoying) wanting some down time and life,,,it is no wonder the amount of women in the looney bin is triple that of men.
Ahhh parenthood...a guilt filled, sleepless, thankless, messy slice of paradise none of us would trade for anything! I thank the universe everyday for my 2 miracles and for my INCREDIBLE husband who seriously deserves a medal ( except in cooking)
Of course here a few delightful shot of our very own disaster!
Ugh people I am discouraged with how long it is taking me to get back into it! I am SOOOOOOOOO out of shape, and my body hurts so much more this time. Ok truth be told i let myself go during the pregnancy, ate whatever i wanted. Boy am I paying the price now. I find getting back into 100% healthy eating so HARD! I will eat a totally great breakfast and then an good lunch, yummy healthy snacks, but by the time 5 comes i just don't have it in me to cook! ARGH! add to that that I am a VERY picky eater, in that i will not eat reheated meat, don't do slow cooker or anytime of sauce cover stew etc, no mashed potatoes, red meat ( you see where this is going) I rarely eat pasta and I try to stay away form anything fried. Needless to say right now food situation ICK! God bless an amazing husband, but he can't cook for bean meaning that i have to cook 3 meals a day for everyone and shop for it and think of it. Mothers of boys...do not fail the next generation of women, teach your sons to cook for goodness sake! If something happened to me all the kids would get is mini wheats and hamburgers. There had got to be a way that working Mom's can eat healthy , lose weight and not lose their minds in the process! Anyone with suggestions , I am listening!!
As for my body..WTF?!?!? talk about not bouncing back!! I thought i would be able to get right back into it, but after so long not doing any activity it is much harder to stay active. I have no stamina and my knees are so F#@$ed-up!! going to see an osteopath , but still! What is even worse is the winter has just made it POOPY! with Layla Rose I could walk everyday because it was summer but here I can't because of the bitter cold. Hopefully this will change soon so i can walk my buddha around the neighborhood. so to remedy this I go to the studio or play hockey. But while I am there i feel like crap, a. because i am so not the person i was and b. because i have left my kids alone. Is there any part of parent hood that is guilt free??? So tonight i was driving home thinking how nice it would be to go to the spa for the day soon, and then in pops the though..."without the kids..." FOR REAL! Between wanting to get back in shape, healing ( still super sore in the abdomen which is annoying) wanting some down time and life,,,it is no wonder the amount of women in the looney bin is triple that of men.
Ahhh parenthood...a guilt filled, sleepless, thankless, messy slice of paradise none of us would trade for anything! I thank the universe everyday for my 2 miracles and for my INCREDIBLE husband who seriously deserves a medal ( except in cooking)
Of course here a few delightful shot of our very own disaster!
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